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Identity Crisis

When you do successfully reach your goal, in what way will your life be different?

This question was in a fitness questionnaire I did and it gave me quite a bit of anxiety.  In what ways will my life be different?  I don’t know.  I imagine that I will be happier and healthier.  I will have more energy and self-confidence.  Maybe I will get hit on more often.  Perhaps when I look in the mirror I won’t recognize myself.  Maybe by changing I am admitting to myself that I wasn’t good enough before.  What will my family and friends think?  Do they even care?  Am I ready to hear… “Oh, you have lost so much weight.  You look great!”

I know that I am not as happy as I could be currently, but I do know who I am.  Who is this happier, healthier me?  What will she look like?  How am I going to feel when people like her better than me?

I never imagined that there would be so much fear and uncertainty attached to the idea of bettering myself.  It is hard to imagine myself any different than I am now.  When I try to imagine a better me, it is like waking up with someone else’s face on.

It wasn’t until I read this question that I realized that I was holding myself back.  My fear is my own enemy. How to overcome this fear, that is the question.  Why can’t I just accept a better me as a possibility?

I myself got a little stumped on this blog post, so I decided to take a break and go on a walk to mull things over.  So, after some alone time I was able to put together a little list of thoughts to help us cope.  So, when you’re thinking that you’re not ready for change or get offended by a compliment you can read this list.

Little List of Thoughts to Help us Cope

  • Change is rather slow.  Change doesn’t happen overnight, so it’s not like you are going to wake up and not know who you are.
  • Compliments are NOT AN ACT OF WAR.  Wouldn’t it be more offensive if no one noticed?
  • You are still YOU. You are now just taking better care of yourself.
  • Oh, and it is not like it has to be permanent!! You can always go back to being the way you are now (SOMEHOW THE MOST HELPFUL)
  • Guess What!?  Who decided to go on a transformation mission?… you did.
  • Who has the strength and will power to reach the future goal? … you do.
  • BAM
  • Came from you! It is not like some one else came along and possessed you.



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